When fate throws a dagger at you, there are only two ways to catch it, either by the blade, or by the handle.
That saying and its message came to mind to me a few days ago. Especially the fact, that when adversity does come our way, we really should catch it by the handle and use it as a tool to carve out success.
Of course, if you are in the face of adversity right now, that all sounds so simple and perhaps a million miles from where you might see yourself at this moment.
And yet, there is great truth in the message that adversity is an experience, not a final act.
I was reminded of that last weekend, when I sat to watch the Tommy Tiernan Show on RTÉ and saw his interview with the hugely inspirational James Leonard.
In the interview, James spoke of his time as a drug addict, of being homeless and in prison and yet deep down inside he said he knew he had more potential than all of that. Somehow, he managed to find his way to discovering it.
And that’s the thing.
If you can somehow keep in mind that wherever you are, whatever your circumstances may be, whatever misfortune you have suffered, there is still light inside you to shine for the world.
If you keep believing you can find it, then all of these troubles will become experiences that will grow an unstoppable force within you.
A verse I learned once, put it brilliantly:
Looking back, it seems to me
All the grief, which had to be,
Left me when the pain was o’er
Richer than I’d been before.
For some reason, remembering that poem reminded me also of the Gerard Manley Hopkins poem Felix Randal, mostly because of the last lines and the image of him working at the forge.
When I was at secondary school I remember the first day we were shown how to work on the forge.
We all watched as our teacher got the temperature of the forge up and then placed a piece of iron into the intense heat, until it changed colour and was almost translucent.
Then, removing it from the forge to the anvil, he took the hammer to the metal made pliable by the heat.
Again and again the process was repeated until the final shape was achieved and the hot metal was suddenly cooled in water. The sudden change tempered the iron, giving it durability and strength.
It was the combination of all these things – the heat, the beating with the hammer, the water – that fused to develop a strength that could be achieved in no other way.
I’ve no doubt that we would all love to enjoy a trouble-free life, but big or small, there is no doubt that troubles of some kind will come our way.
It is how we react to them that’s important.
Adversity can be a springboard for change.
Those setbacks might just even be, the open door for you to finally shine that light of yours to the world.
Forged like that
When your life
like iron,
gets battered.
Beaten down.
Consumed in
the heat of moment
or the cold, terrifying
chill of consuming fear.
Press pause then
and see. That
all these experiences
are just how you are forged.
They are what have
made you.
Robust and resilient.
Durable and determined.
When your life
gets battered.
Beaten down.
Remember you are.
Forged like iron.
Stronger than you think.
(Liam Porter 2020)