I didn’t get to watch all of the Champions League Final at the weekend, but when the game finished and I watched the scenes as Loris Karius lay dejected and alone in the Liverpool goal, I really felt sorry for him.
The young goalkeeper had made two mistakes that led to goals in the final and as Real Madrid celebrated, his own team-mates – dejected surely as they all were -must have known how badly their goalkeeper was feeling, yet they left him lying dejected and alone.
Now, I have to admit that even though I didn’t get to see all of the game, I did see the third goal happen and my initial response was one of criticism for the goalkeeper for making a basic error.
But as he lay on the pitch at the end I knew that the mistake had happened and could not be rectified now, what he needed at that point to have somebody from his own team to come to him and acknowledge that it would all be ok.
Yes, it was a big football match. A huge football match, but it was still only a football match. In the grand scheme of things, no matter what anyone has ever said, it was not more important than life or death.
And the thing about so many sports is this – ultimately they are decided because somebody makes a mistake.
If it is an interception, a missed chance, a mis-placed pass, it somehow never seems to carry the same weight than if a goalkeeper, the very last line of defence, makes a mistake.
Goalkeepers are brave, because people are cruel. Even from a young age, players will blame their goalkeeper as an easy excuse, often in the wrong.
So, I admire the bravery of goalkeepers and I admired the bravery of the 24-year-old Karius who did not hide away after the game, but came and faced the cameras and said he was sorry.
And I thought about this all day because, as a coach, I have young goalkeepers who eat themselves up inside when they make a mistake even though I tell them it is ok, that if they can learn from the mistakes, they will get better and better.
I was reminded of some quotes I’d read once from the famous management consultant Peter Drucker who said the ‘better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try.’
The same man suggested that he would never promote into a top-level job a man who was not making mistakes, because that man would be sure to be mediocre.
Best of all was a piece I’d read from a favourite of mine, Ralph Waldo Emerson who was replying by letter to his daughter. She was away at school and had written to say she was concerned about a past mistake that continued to haunt her.
In his reply Emerson said.
“Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, but get rid of them and forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day and you should never encumber its potentialities and invitations with the dread of the past. You should not waste a moment of today on the rottenness of yesterday.”
I was also reminded of the story of Philadelphia Eagles Quarterback Nick Foles who led his team to Superbowl glory this year having been written off and the strength he had shown to grow and learn.
In all of that I realised that – we are all human and make mistakes so we should never be too quick to jump on anyone else for making one and instead perhaps offer them support in a time of need.
I also remembered that when we do make mistakes we should learn from them, move on and never, ever confuse our mistakes with our value as a human being.
And I remembered this.
Out Of The Storm
There will always be more storms to weather,
opportunities to hide,
to keep the head below the parapet
until it seems a perfect time has come,
to peek out from your fears,
hoping that just maybe,
the worst of the tempest has passed you by.
But those storms can also offer
exciting new prospects.
Chances to show strength;
the fortitude to keep focus on
the glimmers of brightness
however far, on the horizon.
The choice to tough it out;
to shake off obstacles and pain.
To step out from the shadow
of those raging storms,
and learn to dance in the rain…