I attended a volunteer workshop during the week and one of the questions was simply this – why do people volunteer?
And it got me thinking – not so much about why I volunteer because I know – but more about why I never have tried to explain it others?
In many ways, it all comes down to one word – joy.
In a world that tries to grind us down, there can be little doubt that, when it all comes down to it, we only ever really want to be healthy and happy.
And I have learned over the years that happiness is not a possession that we should spend all our time searching for, but rather it is a blessing in everything we experience.
In this blog a few years ago, I outlined how a truly difficult time for me had prompted my 365 day poem-a-day challenge a few years ago and the book that subsequently spanned from that.
The credits of the book, saw me thank several groups I have volunteered with and at the end there is a line that simply reads – “a special word is reserved for everyone involved with Raphoe Town Football Club for their ongoing terrific work.”
It was only a line, but it could so easily have been a page, because, when I started to really think about it, I began to understand that being part of that club for so many years made me feel as if I had something valuable to contribute. That I was worthwhile.
It’s the wonderful thing about being a volunteer – especially when you volunteer in a club with young people. They bring you happiness.
Yes, they’d make you want to tear your hair out in frustration some days – but because the young people are not worn down by the weight of the world, nor do they have any real understanding of all the troubles adults heap on their own shoulders – by and large they will bring untold happiness into your life.
Being around them teaches you to understand that you are a role model – that your life should be a living example of what you speak.
If you want your players to be calm and relaxed, then you should be too. If you want your players to understand that it’s okay to make mistakes, then it is good to acknowledge to them that you will make mistakes too. That you are all learning together.
You learn that people will believe what we do, long before the messages we preach – and if the young players want and expect their coach to be a pleasant, fun and happy person who encourages and respects them – then you learn to get good at that.
When you manage to teach yourself to leave the weight of the world in the car when you head out onto the pitch for training or match days – you begin to realise that you can leave it down when you choose to – that worry is something you don’t have to carry always.
Albert Einstein once said:
“Only a life worth living for others is worth living.”
After years of volunteering, I truly and genuinely believe this to be true.
I have had the great honour of watching so many young players grow into fine men and women who make immense contributions to their families and communities.
I have been privileged to sit, long years after I’d coached them, with players who didn’t have to, but still came to see me or meet me for a chat.
And all of this reinforces my belief that the most valuable gift we can ever give, is a portion of ourselves.
Because, when we do so, we will find happiness.
And happiness, is the point.
I was reminded of these poems from my book, the first one a reminder of how happy and care free children are.
The Happy Children
Driving by, I saw them.
They were playing in the schoolyard
without a care in the world.
So I turned off the radio news
and drove on….
Smiling.