I had a couple of occasions over the past week to stop, take a breath and then realise that the best thing to do is to keep moving forward.
Now, I am certain that not so very long ago I might well have been knocked a little off stride, but I am certain now that all I would have done would have been to heap unnecessary worry on a situation that did not require it.
Put it like this, I’ve come to understand that a positive attitude might not let you do anything, but it will help you do everything better than a negative attitude will.
As someone who spends time helping to coach young players, I believe that when I tell them I believe in them, that it’s important for them to believe me.
In my experience if someone thinks they can’t do something, they are usually right – but that’s also the case for those who think they can.
Our attitude towards a task is a trigger for the body to respond to it and it’s not just a case of simply believing that by being positive, something will happen by magic.
The U14 girls team I help to coach have shown me fantastic examples of this time and time again over the past year.
As I watched them play on Saturday and pondered afterwards on the hard-fought victory they had dug out for themselves, I realised that optimistic people don’t somehow think that nothing will go wrong – just because they have a positive attitude.
In some respects, it may well be the opposite.
What I’ve seen from those girls is that they understand the difference between an obstacle and adversity – is their attitude towards it.
I’d like to think that along with my fellow coaches, we have played some part in helping shape that attitude in them.
That by eliminating unrealistic expectations, allowing for failure without punishment and appreciating their terrific efforts, we have laid some sort of foundation for them to flourish.
But if they have learned anything of that from us as coaches, then as a coach I too have learned from them a lesson, best summed up by the German philosopher Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:
“The way you see people is the way you treat them and the way you treat them, is what they become.”
That is just as true when looking at one self as it is when looking at others – and that’s where I have come to understand how the power of positivity once again becomes important.
I read somewhere once that by keeping going, even in the face of the most difficult times, the chances are you will reach a good point again, even if you stumble on it.
But nobody has ever heard of anyone stumbling on something while sitting down, sitting still.
Every opportunity has a difficulty and every difficulty has an opportunity.
We are who we are today because of our attitudes and choices.
And the choice is ours to keep moving forward.