When I am coaching young players one of the words I use most often with them is the word ‘relax.’
I do so because for many, once they find themselves in what they see as a real-life game scenario – even if it is only in training – panic often sets in when they get the ball.
The pace of the game, the fact that so much is going on in terms of movement around them, the possibility that somebody will come and tackle them, often means that many just want to kick the ball away from them as quickly as they can.
It’s dealt with then – it’s somebody else’s problem.
Sometimes in sport it there are last-ditch just kick it away scenarios, but when it is not one of those moments what I want for these youngsters is for them to relax and calmly deal with the situation they have in that moment.
I was in the car a lot over the past week and was thinking about this and how sometimes that sense of panic can set in for adults in their ‘real-life scenarios’ when things are happening at pace and it all gets a bit overwhelming.
To be honest, I was thinking of it because as my mind began to list through a huge list of things I need to get done over the coming weeks, I realised that without a proper plan, everything could easily come tumbling down around me.
Situations like that sometimes lead to the kicking the ball away reaction – just get things done to tick a box – but without giving those things any proper care and attention.
I have written on numerous occasions on this blog about why we should always try to pursue excellence, so for me it would be better not to do a task at all than do it really badly.
But if a task is on that big list of stuff in your head – how can you decide that you are not going to do it?
That’s where priorities comes in and why it is important to make sure you don’t try to keep that list of things only in your head.
I was reminded during the week of The Eisenhower Matrix on how to make decisions on what’s urgent and important.
That simple diagram explains that once you get your list together, you can sort them into categories.
So, rather than wasting time on things you like doing best or putting off things you might find challenging, you simply make a point of making sure that the urgent and important tasks are those you do first.
If it is important, but not urgent then you need to plan to do these. If it is not important but urgent, delegate these tasks and if a task is not urgent and not important – dump them from your list and don’t waste time and energy on them.
There are other tools you can use to help manage those tasks – things like Wunderlist for instance, but whatever you choose, it is important to learn how to prioritise so you get your important and urgent work over the line when it needs to be done.
So, if you do have a ball of work coming at you at pace – relax!
Take a deep breath and then plan.
It really is the best way to reach those goals!
(I was reminded of these two poems from my book Dance in the Rain on how the chaos can cause havoc when the to-do list is allowed to run unchecked and unplanned.)
Forgot to pause
I forgot to press pause
so I just kept on running
until I fell,
apart at the seams.
Then everything was chaos,
constant commotion
as seconds seeped out
to a blur of endless days.
With the curse of the wicked
I stuffed every minute,
into darkness and light
to make yet more time.
And I juggled and weaved
all those lists and to-dos,
fighting now
just to keep it all together.
Deadline
All at once comes a flood.
Hurtling
and cascading
down,
to overfill that
tiny bit of time
that is keeping
me afloat.
I scramble then
with a keyboard
for a bucket
and slosh away
what I can.
One eye always
on the clock.
Pounding on letters
repeatedly,
and trying
to keep my head,
above the water…